Weekly or Bi-Weekly (Individual or Couples) Counseling (in person, over the phone or video counseling)

Is a process whereby an individual or a couple seek to resolve personal, relational or spiritual difficulties regarding their intimacy with the assistance of trained a caring sex therapist and spiritual director. These sessions can be 50 minutes, 80 minutes, or 110 minutes.

Intensive Counseling Sessions

For individuals or couples (3 to 40 hours of counseling over the course of several hours or days). If you live outside the Colorado Springs area you can stay at a local hotel near the downtown area or at the Bed and Breakfast Inn next door and come to our office for counseling. You would select how many 50 minute sessions you would like to do based on your budget and the time you have available.

Clinical Study-at-Home Treatment Protocols

Clients can purchase clinical study-at-home protocols for specific sexual dysfunctions. First clients need to purchase the “Increasing Your Sexual Desire Clinical Treatment Protocol" and then add on any specific sexual disorders such as the: Male Inhibited Orgasm, Female Inhibited Orgasm or Anorgasmia (inability to orgasm) Protocol, Vaginismus Pain Disorder Protocol, Premature Ejaculation Protocol, and Erectile Dysfunction Protocol or an Engaged or Newlywed Protocol to prepare sexually for marriage. 

These are clinical sex therapy prescriptions for these particular disorders, in which the client is led through a 6-9 month protocol to deal with that particular disorder. Clients do these at their own pace, but we have the protocols set up so that the client is led through 3 Intimacy Experiences per week either alone or with their spouse. These are clinical in nature, and are what all clinical sex therapists prescribe, but we have created them to be highly spiritual in nature with a strong emphasis on building intimacy with the Lord along with being intimate with your spouse. They include some Christian-mind-body work, but it is basic, and not what we can do in personal counseling sessions.

These protocols were created for a couple who has minor issues, and neither the husband or wife have unresolved trauma in their past. Some clients get support from a marriage and family therapist for the trauma work that live in their area and do the sex therapy protocol at home. But remember, that unless a counselor has had specific clinical training and certification in sex therapy, they are not qualified to work with those issues. An Initial Appointment with us or a Sexual Assessment must be completed before these can be purchased.   

Couples Romantic Intimacy Spiritual Formation Retreats (for Engaged and Married Couples)

Is a safe place to expose the ways you’re relating to your spouse in unhealthy ways, while looking ahead to your dignity and reflecting the glory of the Lord in your personhood; where intentional relating draws you from hiding, and where the sufficiency of the Spirit causes lasting change. We are very protective of the sacredness of your marriage bed, we use appropriate boundaries in the couple’s group, and the separate husband and wife groups. We require confidentiality from each person who attends the retreat in very specific ways.

These retreats incorporate personal reflection, sexual education, couple’s communication, a romantic candlelight dinner, spiritual mediation (Lectio Divina, Imaginative Contemplation and walking a Labyrinth), and doing Intimacy Experiences, readings and journaling on their own.

Couples who live near Colorado Springs or couples who fly into Colorado will eiather stay at a retreat center in the Rockies, stay at a hotel in the city, or if a majority of the couples live in Colorado Springs, we will hold the retreat at our counseling offices and couples will commute from home or their hotel. The retreat begins on Thursday night at 6 P.M. and ends Sunday afternoon 5 P.M. Below is a description:

YOU TELL YOUR LIFE STORY WHEN YOU MAKE LOVE!

How can a Christian couple live in God’s design for their sexuality and at the same time celebrate her femininity, alluring power and erotic desire and his masculine strength, power to pursue, and initiative within God’s economy for their erotic desires?  No matter how wounded your sexuality is, what stage of life you’re in, or how long you’ve been married, the Lord desires to heal you both as you experience community in a confidential group of other couples. We will explore the following topics together and then separate into wives and husbands groups for soul care:

© Learning the difference between making love and having sex

© Identifying problem areas that hinder intimacy utilizing the Lovemaking Cycle (Atmosphere, Arousal, Apex and Afterglow)

© Celebrating “oneness” in your sexual love as God designed it

© Healing your spouse with God’s way of intimacy, in the way they were designed

© Understanding the dance of your sexual desires with God’s ultimate purpose

© Developing a sexual theology for sexual behaviors within God’s economy

© Handling erotic desires and romantic fantasies—the windows of your soul that affect your oneness

© Understanding how your sexual past impacts your current marital love

© Experiencing the differences between your masculine & feminine souls

© Cherish and love your wife, and respond to and respect your husband sexually

© Experiencing the New Covenant through the Lord’s redemption, forgiveness and grace

© Learning about sexual health, STD’s, birth control views etc

.© Protecting your marriage from outside influences (culture, affairs, addictions)

There will be readings, reflection and journaling from the following books:“The Bible”, “When Two Become One”, “Shekinah Glory” and “Break All the Rules" as well as assigned romantic and clinical Intimacy Experiences, which couples complete on their own before and during the retreat.

Spiritual Formation Counseling Retreat for Single Women

Is a safe place to expose the wrong ways in which you’ve handled pain apart for God, while looking ahead to each other’s glory, where intentional relating draws you from hiding, and where the sufficiency of the Spirit causes lasting change.

EMBRACING YOUR SEXUALITY 

How can a Christian woman live in God’s design for her sexuality and at the same time celebrate her femininity, alluring power and erotic desire while honoring herself, her future soul mate, and her Lord? No matter how wounded your sexuality is, what stage of life you’re in, or whether or not you’re currently in a relationship, the Lord desires to heal you as you experience community in a confidential group of women. We will explore the following topics together: 

  •  Understanding the dance of your sexual desires with God’s ultimate purpose
  •  Embracing your sexuality without “white knuckling” it with sheer will power
  •  Developing a sexual theology for sexual behaviors within God’s economy
  •  Preparing for your future soul mate
  •  how you handle your sexuality now will impact your future marriage
  •  Understanding your sexual development (body image, femininity etc.)
  •  Sexual trauma or inappropriateness & its affect on your sexuality
  •  Understanding male & female differences
  •  Recognizing a good man (yes they’re out there!)
  •  Experiencing the Lord’s redemption, forgiveness and grace
  •  Learning about sexual health, STD’s and sexual addiction
  •  Sexual Behaviors in dating, coupling, courting, engagement & marital relating

There will be some reading, reflection & journaling from the following books:“The Bible”, “Sex and the Soul of a Woman” (this is the only book you’ll buy), “Beauty Restored”, “Shekinah Glory” & “Break All the Rules” 

Spiritual Formation Group Counseling Retreat for Single Men

Is a safe place to expose the wrong ways in which you’ve handled pain apart from God, while looking ahead to each other’s glory, where intentional relating draws you from hiding, and where the sufficiency of the Spirit causes lasting change.

SEX AND YOUR MASCULINITY 

How can a Christian man live in God’s design for his sexuality and at the same time celebrate his masculine strength, power to pursue and initiative within God’s economy for His erotic desires? And while doing this he honors himself, his future Eve, and the Lord? No matter how wounded your sexuality is, what stage of life you’re in, or whether or not you’re currently in a relationship, the Lord desires to heal you as you experience community in a confidential group of men. We will explore the following topics together:

¨ Understanding the driven-ness of your sexual desires within God’s ultimate purpose

¨ Handling lust—the window of the eyes that determines how you relate to women

¨ Embracing your sexuality without “white knuckling” it with sheer will power or repression

¨ Developing a sexual theology for sexual behaviors within God’s economy

¨ Preparing for your future Eve (how you handle your sexuality now will impact your future marriage)

¨ Understanding how your sexual past affects your current sexuality

¨ Understanding the difference between the masculine & feminine souls

¨ How to cherish and love a good woman (yes they’re out there!)

¨ Experiencing the New Covenant through the Lord’s redemption, forgiveness and grace

¨ Learning about sexual health, STD’s and sexual addiction

¨ Sexual Behaviors in dating, coupling, courting, engagement & marital relating

There will be some reading, reflection & journaling from the following books:“The Bible”, ““Soul Virgins”, “Shekinah Glory” & “Break All the Rules”